Note: Care less. Not, don’t care at all. There is such a fine line. Keeping the balance of caring. Not too much & not too little.
Probably to put it better would be to say choosing the right things to care about, be it people or situations. And letting go of the things that really don’t matter.
I’ve been fighting this battle for 28 years. I’m by no means a “perfect” person (what is that anyway), but I am by nature very gentle & caring. Generally seen as good qualities, but can sometimes be a curse for the holder. I’ll admit, I’ve spent the most part of my life trying to please everyone, keep everyone happy & get everyone to “like” me. It has made my journey thus far an emotional rollercoaster & quite frankly a complete head fuck.
I can honestly say in the past six months, I have finally taken on the old adage of “look out for number one”, or as I prefer to describe my new outlook “love the ones that love you back”. It is like a giant weight has been lifted from my shoulders.
In my life I’ve had relationships break down, with both friends & lovers. I’ve been chewed up & spat out by people I loved & trusted. Ripped off by one employer & taken advantage of by others. I’ve had my house robbed, car broken into & abuse yelled at me as I walk down the street, if for no other reason than just because I was there.
Turns out not everybody likes me! No everybody agrees with what I have to say! Not everybody wants to be my friend!
And you know what? I’m perfectly okay with that. Every single event in my life has brought me to this point right now & I’m pretty happy with the person I’ve become.
You know why that’s so great? Because that’s what I think. I am truly the most important being in my own world. I’m the only person that has to put up with me on a daily basis, the only person that has to live with me & the only person I know how to be.
The moment I started taking stock & stopped giving a shit about people & situations that didn’t matter, was the moment I truly started to live.
Cut yourself some slack. Love the people that love you back. The ones that are in your corner through thick & thin. Cut loose those that bring you down & only pop in & out of your life when it suits them.
Free yourself from taking on everyone else’s worries, expectations & insecurities. Start living & loving your life. Easier said than done sometimes, but if you’re a worrier & a bit of a people pleaser like me, I encourage you to give it a go.