I know posts like this pop up everywhere you look this time of year. I’m not about to jump on the over loaded band wagon of singles dropping bombs on February 14.
Truth is, I think most of us would admit, it is kind of nice having someone special in the mix on Valentines Day. Whether you choose to make a big deal out of the day or not.
This is just my take on reasons why you, like me, should embrace your singledom this Valentines & not beat yourself up on your lack of a significant other.
Last year I thought I did pretty well in the affection & gift giving department with my girlfriend at the time. She was more interested in organising a card for a mutual friend. That’s cool. Can’t win them all. I did receive a gift a week or so after the fact, so I can’t complain too much.
The year previous I also put in a decent amount of effort with another former flame. She broke up with me a few days later.
I’m not bitter. Both relationships were unhealthy & I’m sure both other parties would agree they are better off, as am I.
I’m actually really relishing my single status & my first single Valentines Day in 3 years.
If you’re also single, don’t despair. I’ve scribed a list of my 4 favourite reasons to embrace being a wolf pack of one, on this day where every restaurant world wide is inundated with tables of two.
1. YOU WON’T GET DUMPED Apparently February the 14th isn’t off limits for ending a relationship. (Neither are the couple of weeks leading up to your birthday, just ask a couple of my exes about both these dates. No day of the year is sacred).
2. NO EXPECTATIONS = NO DISSAPOINTMENT Plain & simple. We’re all human & having expectations comes with the territory. Whether we like it or not. In my experience, expectations, be they big or small, all too often lead to disappointment. Flying solo, you get to avoid the very real chance of building the day up, only to be let down like a lead balloon.
3. YOU GET TO SAVE PAPER/MOOLAH/COIN/CASH MONEY However you refer to your hard earned dollar, look forward to saving a decent portion of it. Prices everywhere, of everything however relevant they may be (cards, flowers, chocolates, stuffed animals) seem to get bumped up in February. Add to that, the chance you get carried away spoiling your other half & this one little day can wind up costing you a small fortune.
4. NO STRESSING OVER FINDING THE PERFECT GIFT Chocolates & a teddy is sweet, but a little too cliché – think “hey just casually stopped at the petrol station on the way home.” Jewellery is generally a little too much – “I’m potentially already planning our wedding.” Where to find the happy medium? It’s a fucking nightmare. As a side note, I used to buy the odd gift for my girlfriend through out the year & then keep it stashed away for special occasions. Incase I couldn’t find anything when the day rolled around. This works well, that is until you break up & you’re left with a bunch of crap you don’t want or need.
So this February 14, on the international day of “love”, instead of crying into your pillow, appreciate the little things. Celebrate all the wonderful perks of not being in a relationship. Buy yourself a gift, do something you love to do. I’ll more than likely be enjoying an emu bitter, while eating sangas off the bbq with a bunch of my workmates. As we usually do on a Friday night, after a hard days work in remote North Western Australia. Live in the moment & appreciate the little things. Being in a relationship is not the be all & end all.